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Thursday, September 25, 2008

Forever: Take Two

Wayne asked me to marry him two nights ago. He said he'd been trying to find the perfect time, the perfect place and the perfect way to do it. So, a couple of nights ago we took the kids out to dinner. Surrounded by our eight children he finally decided that there would be no perfect time than then, so while the babies wiggled around the restaurant floor he asked me to be his wife. I found out later as the older ones giggled and awed that all of them were in on it. Eight kids and not one of them let the cat out of the bag. I am impressed. I'd been wondering when he'd get to me. He made it a point to ask my father a while ago and my kids. I liked to tease him that everyone already said yes except for me, but it was important for him to do it the "proper" way and I respect that. I'm not such a warm and fuzzy girl, though I am a bit soft and squishy, but he's teaching me to slow down and appreciate things. We've both been married before and we know what it takes to commit. We are fortunate to have found one another, even if it was in the most unconventional way possible. I guess it's true. When God doesn't answer your prayers, it's probably not what's best for you anyway. I asked God to save my marriage, but that was like an alcoholic asking Him to make that bottle of wine last forever. It definitely wasn't easy, but it's completely worth it. There's nothing I can say about Wayne that could do justice to the man that he is. I knew, we knew we'd be better one day. Who could have guessed we'd get another chance at forever? I said ((((((YES))))))!!!
Wayne has an exceptional ability to listen. He heard me talk about ethical mining and my disdain for anything that was remotely associated with conflict jewelry. All of a sudden the search for a perfect ring became a search for a bloodless diamond. If you don't think that's romantic, I beg to differ. Knowing that the folks who mined, cut, polished, set and sold my ring had adequate health care and compensation, knowing that the mines that held my diamond in them were not ruthlessly scavenged, knowing that we didn't contribute to the violence that has destroyed people and villages in Africa, Angola, Burma, Brazil, etc. , and finally, knowing that this was just as important to Wayne as it is to me is the most romantic gesture in the world.
Brilliant Earth, where he found my ring was established after it's owners realized how frustrating it was to find conflict free jewelry, and though there are many other sites, this is the only place available that can track the diamonds, stones, back to their sources ensuring that they are ethically mined. Beachcomber wrote a comment about BE on one of my older posts.They also use renewable metals and give back 5% of their profit to places where the diamond trade has torn villages apart. There are pictures of Brilliant Earth jewelry on other sites, but the most gorgeous pieces are on the Soocool photography blog. Enjoy!

27 comments:

Para i familiaku said...

CONGRATULATIONS! Sounds to me like Brilliant Earth is a brilliant place to buy diamonds from! Guilt free and environmentally friendly.

Now, if we can only find sustainable coffee for daily living, that would be awesome.

Congratiuations again!!

Jeff said...

Wow. Congratulations to you. I'm so happy for you.

calistalee said...

Ooooooh! Congratulations :) Woohooo! Yay! **Dance of joy!**

kirida said...

Congratulations Boni!!!!

Tamara said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! THATS A STUNNING RING! IM VERY HAPPY FOR THE TWO OF YOU!!!!!!!!

KelliOnSaipan said...

Wow, Boni, how very special! Congrats to both of you.

KelliOnSaipan said...

And the ring is stunning! Congrats again.

Shazam said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! In addition to being ethical it is beautiful. I'm so excited for you and a happy new beginning!

Anonymous said...

LOVE YOU BONBON !!--I...AS WELL AS THE ENTIRE FAMILY--APPRECIATE YOU & OUR EXTRA 4 NEICES & NEPHEWS...FROM MY HEART--THANK YOU..FOR LOVING WENKO & HIS KIDS..GORGEOUS RING FOR A GORGEOUS & WONDERFUL WOMAN...ENJOY YOUR LIFETIME TOGETHER...

UR SISTA ;-)

Anonymous said...

love you bonbon!!--i'm so happy for you both... i -- as well as the entire family -- welcome and appreciate you and our extra neices & nephew...thank you for making wenko happy and loving him & his kids too...enjoy your lifetime together...best wishes..

ur sista ;-)

The Saipan Blogger アンジェロ・ビラゴメズ said...

Congrats!

Three more kids and you've got a soccer team!

The Beachcomber said...

Cheers! To your hapiness!

Boni said...

Thank you everyone:) Wayne and Boni. Yep, the ring is a looker all right. I'm a lucky girl.

Cynthia said...

Congratulatinos Boni! I got so thrilled when Jeff told me about the great news. Wow! I'm so happy for you. You deserve the best because you're such a beatiful person inside and out:) Godbless.

Hee Jae said...

Congratulations, Bon! When the giggles slow down, we need to get serious about March.

Yours Truly.

Boni said...

Thanks Cynthia and Jeff. Dreams do come true in the most unexpected ways. I never thought I'd find someone as wonderful as my dad, but here he is and he's mine forever:) Hee Jae girl, slow down. You're gonna give yourself a coronary. I still say jeans and a nice top. No cake, lots of margaritas:)

Jaci_ofthe_dead said...

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!! ENJOY EVERY MINUTE OF IT! DONT LET WEDDING PLANNING GET YOU UPSET! AND DONT SETTLE!!!! ITS YOUR WEDDING, GET WHAT YOU WANT!!!!!

catpag said...

Congrats Bon!!!

Bruce A. Bateman said...

Congratulations Wayne, you've got a winner there.

May you both be happy and healthy.

Will this mean 4 more?

bigsoxfan said...

Love the blue in the stone and the happiness in your heart. Congratulations to you both.

Boni said...

Thanks Cat! Bruce: I think eight is plenty enough. Mark: we are so happy, thanks. BTW, there were no ranks of prospective suitors, I'm hardly that hot a commodity, but I was fortunate enough to catch this one. It's great to have a best friend to spend the rest of your life with.

plumeria*girl said...

Congrats to both you and Wayne! Your happiness is so vibrant and that's absolutely wonderful :) By the way, the ring is gorgeous! A beautiful ring for a beautiful woman!

Forgotten said...

Congratulations Boni!

Boni said...

Aw thanks P:) We are definitely over the top happy. Elle:)

1nce A Week Writer said...

With all the things that you've gone through, I am really happy to see that both you and Wayne have found love for each other and I don't really want to be the last one to congradulate you, so Congrats! Honestly, I see Wayne happy before but not like this. Your the love of his life.

Boni said...

Aw, thank you G. I can't believe it sometimes, but we'll be married yay! Wayne is happy and he makes me so happy.

Melissa said...

YAY Boni! Sorry, I'm just now getting caughtup on my blog reading... Gemma has seriously limited my computer time! Super Congrats to you, and you give me hope that one day it just might happen to me!